Guest Post: Tips from a Wife

I can't even begin to tell you how sweet Becky from Love Everyday Life is. Really. We suffered through switching domains together {technologically challenged, or at least I am!} to trying to desperately figure out a way to meet up in person {not going to happen on this trip, sadly} and to her sending me a whopping big parcel of Halloween treats {oh, bliss!}, the girl is just the kindest person ever. If you're not reading her blog, you should be!

Hi readers! It’s Becky from Love Everyday Life. Aly asked me to guest blog while she’s away and I was more than happy to help out! (Even though she’s using her new camera that I covet, visiting places I would love to see, and off having a generally good time while I’m at work daydreaming…but I digress).

I was trying to come up with something clever and engaging for this post because guest blogs are supposed to be funny and sassy and delightful (no pressure), when it came to me. Aly’s getting married! (Um yes, I know you’re aware of this and I promise that’s not what I’m blogging about).

She’ll be a wife soon and being the experienced wife of three years I have much knowledge to impart upon her and anyone else who wants to listen. (Still out there?) So without further ado, six things I’ve learned (sometimes the hard way!) about being married.

1) Your definition of doing the dishes and your husband’s definition of doing the dishes don’t necessarily mean the same thing. That’s what compromises are for.
2) You can’t be everything to your spouse. You have to be an individual to be part of a couple, so girls/guy nights are essential, as are date nights with just the two of you.
3) If your husband warms up your cold feet at night in bed it’s worth playing a video game you are horribly bad at. (Never underestimate the glory of warm feet).
4) Communication is key. Half the arguments my husband and I had our first year of marriage were because one of us was thinking one thing but not communicating it effectively. (Fights about socks? Yeah. Been there).
5) It is completely acceptable to create your own language that other people might not understand. “Babe, where’s that thing with the blade…it’s blue…” “Top drawer!” “Thanks and the…” “Yeah, right here, hurry, you’re going to be late!” (What, that doesn’t make sense to you?)
6) At the end of the day, nothing beats having an amazing partner to come home to, laugh with, cry with, and share your life with. It’s hard work but so worth it.

What do you think readers? Do you agree? Am I full of it? Any tips you’d care to add? Thanks for having me Aly!

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Britt said...

Hahah! Totally agree on the creation of your own language. People looking in on my relationship would laugh hysterically at the language we've created with each other :)

Becky said...

Thanks for letting me guest blog Aly! :)

Amber said...

Awesome post, Becky! I completely agree with all of your tips: ESPECIALLY the 1st one but for me it applies to Laundry. Which is why I do ALL the laundry in our house by choice :-)

Lisa from Lisa's Yarns said...

Good tips! I am not married so don't have tips... but now that I am in a relationship, I will say maintaining a life of your own outside of the relationship is important. I need to continue to go to the gym, meet up with friends, and spend afternoons reading or knitting. A little time apart is healthy for a couple!

Oh said...

Guest blogging? Very cool.

Playing the video game since he warms your feet is representative of the essential give-and-take rule. Essential!!! (plus, this one made me smile. My hubs tolerates Project Runway if I tolerate his fascination with UFOs and other shows on such oddities.

Give and take is major to marital success. May everyone manage it as fluently as possible!

I am impressed with your list. Well done, and onward!

S.I.F. said...

Loving the advice Becky! Hopefully some day I'll get the chance to test it out! :)

Emily Jane said...

Open communication is the biggest part of any relationship I think!

Mrs. Higrens said...

#4...yeah, that one. Communication issues still cause 90% of the "extended discussions" in our household and we've been together for going on 11 1/2 years.

But making up is a lot of fun! ;)

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