Announcing an engagement certainly results in a mixed bag of emotions.

Having the whole experience happen while we're living abroad is awesome. It's a story I won't ever forget, and means the world to me, because it's something Jason and I have experienced together. In the past month, we've had a lot of support and well wishes; with cards being sent to us across the waters, lots of phone messages and texts, and of course the sweet comments and emails that have made our day.

The part that is the most difficult about being here though, is being so far away from family and friends. When it comes to celebrating the engagement and sharing the excitement? We're sort of stumped, or at least on pause for the time being. We both have made some great friends through living and working here, and they do seem legitimately pleased for us, but it's not quite the same. My work friends don't know Jason, Jason's work friends don't really know me, so the idea of holding some sort of engagement dinner freaks me out a tiny, tiny bit.

I miss my family, I miss my few good friends at home, and I can't wait to actually share it with them in person. I suppose that's one celebration that we'll still have to look forward to - when we do eventually move back home for good, but I still have this pang to celebrate it now, while things are still fresh and giddy, and exciting!

There's also been a little bit of disappointment, especially from friends who I thought would have been happy to hear the good news. I realise that this engagement is not the most important thing that is going on in people's lives, and I certainly wouldn't expect people to drop what they're doing to jump on the wedding bandwagon with me. At the end of the day though, the propsal was something pretty major for me, something that I've been hoping for, for a really long time.

There are a few people who I had hoped would have shown a little interest in the news .. when instead, there's basically been silence. No emails, no congratulations, or really just no interest in it at all.

I suppose it's a good indication of who really does want to be involved in the lead up, and who is just along for the ride. It still stings though, I'll admit. I wonder what will happen in the future.

In other friend news, it's not long now until I see Julie and Kirby, my girlfriends who are heading over to the UK for their own respective adventures. I hope I'll have the engagement ring back and resized by then, so we can go all girly and indulge in a little squee-ing. It's good for the soul. I'm also planning on persuading Kirby-photographic-genius, to take some pictures of Jason and I, if we can rope him into it, of course!

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kirby said...

hells yeah i will take the pictures!

(I'll take yer peeecture!)

I think I'm more excited about this than I would be if it was me getting engaged! I CAN'T WAIT TO SEEEE YOUUUU!!!

Julz said...

ALYYYYY I'm totally up for going out for drinks when I get to the UK :D it can be a mini celebration :) ONE MORE MONTH!

Britt said...

I think maybe some people are jealous that it's you and not them. That has been my experience anyways. A few people with little to say are the ones wishing it was them in my place. C'est la vie! It's your happy moment, sing it from the rooftops baby!

I'm scared to do an engagement party too - T's mom wants to throw us one in October when we go to Calgary. Might be interesting!

Lara said...

Aw, I'm sorry about the silence from some folks. I agree with Britt that jealousy is often a cause, but don't let yourself feel too bad about it. You can't control other people's reactions, and you have lots of folks who are THRILLED for you. :)

Kelly said...

At work last week I was boasting on your behalf about your Tiffany ring.
Now that I think about it, I think I might be more excited about your engagement than I was about my own... haha!

Robyn said...

I think it's sad when people aren't excited for other people. I was literally bouncing around on cloud nine for you, and Emilie too.

Hopefully, when Kirby is around Londontown, I can come down too?

~Mum~ said...

oh baby - PHOOOEY to them. Don't worry about anyone else ... they're just jealous cos they wanted a proposal in prague !!! Everyone says how awesome that must have been for you.

JUST enJOY IT ... and let me know when i can start planning the wedding !!!

And i say have a little night out to celebrate when Kirby is there ... ask a few people along and have FUN

MISS YOU SO MUCH - and i can't wait to see the ring in person !!!

~Mum~ said...

oh yes

KIRBY ... i need some 'official' engagement photos ;-)

Katie said...

It must be hard living away from your friends during this time. Your friends who haven't contacted you might not realise they've hurt you - living so far away from friends and family can be difficult on all sides. I often forget to share news with my parents and relatives.

Either way, don't let it get you down - you've got heaps of support from your blog readers from all over the world! :)

Becs said...

I know what you mean. I told everyone I knew and it was amazing how some people I thought wouldn't care were so excited. Others that I thought would want to celebrate and hear all about it didn't seem to care at all. Recently I posted a message on facebook saying I was only 5 weeks away from the wedding and some people that didn't care before, asked where there invitation was. How do I answer that? Umm...you don't get one. Sorry!

I wish I lived closer to you so I could take you out and buy you lots of drinks and you could tell me the engagement story over and over and I would be so excited to hear it every time!

Marianne said...

I totally understand where you're coming from.

But, I'm in Chicago and oh-so-happy for you !!!

Jess said...

This is too bad. It's so frustrating being far away and not getting the support you'd expect from certain friends. I'm sure it's not intentional on their part but that doesn't make it hurt any less. In the meantime, though, know that there are people all over the globe who are THRILLED for you guys!

katelin said...

squeeing is totally good for the soul and the body and just good for you. celebrate your engagement no matter what! :)

La Petite Chic said...

I can definitely understand your disappointment in friends who haven't sent along their best wishes. Do know that I send my congratulations from Maryland!

Emilie said...

*is very excited for you still*

but then again, i can relate to the engagement excitement first hand. :)

i'm sorry some people have not been/shown their support and excitement. that is really frustrating to deal with when you are so happy and bubbly.

hugs from the us!

LaLa said...

Oh love... you poor wee thing. Here's hoping that Kirby and Julie help you celebrate enough to hold out for a mega celebration when you get home! xx

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Cheer up! You can't really expect some people, even friends, to share your joys and excitement! The most important thing is that you're happy and that you know that when you finally go back home, there are people who would be celebrating for the good news.

Kris said...

oh this is too much. I haven't read ur blog in soooo long i'm so exciting things are going so well!!! YAY!
As for the ppl who aren't interested/excited they can suck it. It happened to me too and i was hurt for a bit then figured they could stick forks in their jealous little eyes so phhhhtbbthh! You're engaged!!!!!! YAYYYYY!!!! Muah!

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